Wow, you have a lot of big issues there!
First, I agree with the first poster. I would, even if you do not agree or think the process for notification of violations was not followed correctly, comply immediately with any of the alleged violations and note the date of correction.
Since I manage in Michigan, I am not familiar with Missouri law or documents. I do know Michigan documents most often have a section called "Procedures" in how the violation process and notification is handled. It states that violation notices are to be delivered first class mail or personally delivered. If your documents are similar, while this is ridiculous, it may be allowed. However, if you were never given an opportunity for a hearing, that may be a sticking point.
I would respond to the board via letter and send it certified with a return reciept. I would outline what has occurred and that you had not recieved notification, what you have done to comply and that you would like a hearing to discuss the matter and that you request (at your expense, and it shouldn't be much - you can even include a check to cover the costs) you be notified of the date and time of the meeting via certified mail.
If you feel the need, I would inform the board if you plan to bring representation. While they have, from your telling, been unfair, it is prudent and best if you are above board and inform them, so if they feel the need to have representation, they will. If you do go this route, it may be informative to see what advice the board may be getting. If it is "free" advice, are they a qualified real estate attorney? In my opinion, you always get what you pay for.
I would be very cautious in making claims or statements on abuse, harrassment or "payback", particularly in the meeting. Do not address these other items, only the issues that are particular to you. Give the board the chance to either vindicate or hang themselves.
The other issues should be addressed separately and you may still need legal counsel for that. You may also consider running for the board or finding candidates who share your views/outlook that you can support for the board. The leadership of the Association is, per the documents, what determines when and how things are done as well as the application, enforcement and possible implementation of rules and regulations.
The more you push, the more that the board as a group will push back. Give them as few reasons as you can to push back by acting reasonably and logically. I know it is difficult because it is an emotional issue and often it is difficult to keep your emotions out of it.
Hey sounds like you have your own dictators that have set up shop now that they are in control of the board of directors. I have seen this many, many times. I'm working with a cousin now who is dealing with the same kind of knuckleheads. In fact a board member called the police on him for taking pictures of trash! So you are not alone. First, google your state for condo rules, next look up your states attn General and see what they do for condo problems. Often they will look into things like this but you will need the details. Next if you want email me your condo rules and copies of the letters you have recieved and I'll run over them and have my friends help with a plan. Just dot out your private info. You can email them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I've got off most of this week so I don't mind dealing with idiots like this, call it a hobby. Also, beware that going head to head can get ugly as these sort of idiots can get their minions on your case. Sometimes having a third party, me, lawyer, or friend (using your name as little and not at all if possible) to wage the fight is best, trust me I've seen it all and my volunteer friends have been , threatend, had the police called and had other neighbors get angry with them because the board set them after the percieved threat, you!
Hi Barbie Rose, I have the same problem in my association. I got the certified letter today from USPS to summon me for the hearing next month. The reason that I violate the association law that my garbage can somehow they can see it in my courtyard- that's from their letter. I go around the neighborhood and took all of the garbage can pictures I view from the outside and found out the some of the people not hiding like me but put in public view, in plain sight and don't need to work hard to see their garbage can like the association have to work hard to see my garbage can. There are a lot of house that is where they hide their garbage can like where I hide mine and they even hide there for years. If the association don't enforce the rule they apply to me to other homeowners: is it discrimination against me? Do i have reasonable doubt that they discriminate against me? What should I do about this?
The letters they sent me before warning me that I violate the law the garbage can only in public view not 12 hours before trash pickup but the date they cite their citation letter is on the date Waste management pick up the trash. Did I violate the law by put out my garbage can for waste management to pick up. Please help because I am so confused right now. If the association use the law in appropriately, the association promote the unrespectfulness to its law from the homeowners? or it will forfeit its right to enforce its law. Is that correct?